The Five Gifts of a Secure Parent
What Your Child Really Needs From You
These are the five core experiences that help your child grow up confident, resilient, and deeply connected to you — even if you didn't get them yourself.
Watch Eli explain the 5 Gifts (20 min)
The 5 Gifts of a
Secure Parent
The inheritance of emotional connection.
Based on the Masterclass by Eli Harwood. Goals to help our kids grow up and out with confidence and empathy.
Attachment Nerd
I Can Handle Your Emotions
"My parent cares about what I feel and knows how to support me."
Take a sip without lugging it down.
Stay present. Don't be repulsed by their feelings, but don't get lost in them either. Be the calm they can borrow.
I Understand Your Perspective
Even if they are wired differently. Even if they think eggs are disgusting and you love them.
Curiosity > Conversion
"When I say no, does it feel like I don't care about you? I'm so glad you told me that."
I Want You Close To Me
"Wagging Tail Energy"
No one is ever confused if their dog is happy they are home. Our kids need that same enthusiasm.
"I am so glad you are here."
I Show Up For You
The Tender & The Triumphant
The Struggle
"We're gonna figure this out together."
The Joy
"I want to join you in your joy."
It's not about fixing or rescuing. It's about being the "Slate Sandwich" (a comforting wrap) when they are overwhelmed.
I Celebrate Your Authentic Self
"My parent is proud of every part of me."
If they are introverted and you are extroverted, work through your own triggers so they don't carry shame for who they are wired to be.
Real Talk: The Curve
30-50%
The "Good Enough" Zone
Research shows secure dyads are in sync only 30-50% of the time. You don't need an A+. You just need to pass.
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