Want to Know Exactly What's Inside the Secure Parenting Program?
The only parenting program based on 70+ years of attachment research that tells you: getting it right 30% of the time is enough
Behavior is communication in children.
Powerful science. Practical tools. Real change.
"The amount of compassion and security Eli showered us with was truly so lovely to experience - I walked away feeling like I was going to be OK, and could handle whatever comes my way. βThank you!β does not feel sufficient!!!"
"This experience was absolutely life-changing! Eli, you and your team helped to break toxic cycles and barriers that will change generations! We canβt thank you enough for stepping into your calling and doing the HARD work to pour into our lives"
"βI am leaving with a very full tool belt to move forward competently to show up as a secure parent to my kids. I learned massive amounts about myself, we had so many laughs and so much space for our emotions and sensitive subjects. "
Your 6βWeek Transformation
Cracking the Attachment Code
- Explain attachment in everyday language
- Connect your past experiences to your current parenting approach
- Spot four patterns: Secure, Anxious-Resistant, Anxious-Avoidant, Disorganized
- How to reflect instead of react
- How to co-regulate with your child for more effective learning and connection
Cultivating Trust and Connection
- Learn how to mirror your childβs emotional state without losing yourself in it Become your child's emotional safe haven
- Learn how to express authentic delight
- Develop the ability to create calm confidence with your body + voice
Navigating the Hard Moments
- Shift from a control to a connection mindset
- Master the C.A.L.M. method: Contain, Attune, Listen, Melt
- Learn the 3 Tβs of important conversations
- Real-life demos: store, bedtime, homework
A Secure Base
- Learn to scaffold support instead of hovering
- Understand the difference between resilience & toughness
- Separate natural consequences from punishments
- Develop growth mindset language to coach your childβs learning
Connected Protection
- Avoid protection pitfalls: hovering + pushing
- Learn how to talk about the tough stuff
- Key conversations for teaching body safety and consent
- Cultural considerations around giving family feedback
- Secure steps for handling abuse or harm disclosures from your child
Rupture to Repair
- To have a secure bond we only need to be emotionally in sync with our kids 30% of the time.
- The 30% rule: good-enough attunement
- Conflict as discovery, not disaster
- Fast-repair scripts + family reset rituals
- Build your regulation buffer (your village)
What Makes This Different?
Science-Backed
Based on decades of attachment research, not opinions
Compassionate
Addresses YOUR childhood wounds with the same care you'll learn to show your kids
Practical & Personal
Six weeks of biteβsize videos, scripts youβll actually use
Flexible
Lifetime access, live Q&A, and works whether you have toddlers or teens
Your child's nervous system remembers: "Mom can't handle my big feelings."
About Eli Harwood, LMFT
Eli didn't start with secure attachment - she earned it. Growing up with anxious attachment patterns and marrying someone with avoidant tendencies, she knows firsthand what it's like to break generational cycles.
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Credentials & Expertise
- Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT)
- Author of "Raising Securely Attached Kids" (Child Psychology Award winner)
- Reached over 1 million parents through her "Attachment Nerd" platform
- 19+ years helping families break generational cycles
βYour children don't need a perfect parent. They need a parent who can show up, mess up, and repair. That's exactly what I'll teach you to do.β
What You Get From Day One
You need tools that work tonight. Hereβs whatβs waiting in your member dashboard:
6 comprehensive video modules
Selfβpaced learning designed for busy parents. Watch at 1.5x speed or in 10βminute chunks.
Printable script cards & worksheets
Exact words for your pocket, purse, or phone.
Monthly live Q&A with Eli
Replays posted within 24 hours; every question timeβcoded and searchable.
Ageβspecific adaptations
Variants for toddlers, schoolβage, and teens.
Neurodivergentβaffirming alternatives
ADHD, autism, and sensoryβfriendly modifications throughout.
Partner alignment guide
How to get on the same page when your styles differ.
The experience we have with our parents... the way our parents relate to us becomes our inner voice.
Still Have Questions?
We've addressed the most common concerns parents have about this program.
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Contact UsPowerful science. Practical tools. Real change.
β I walked away feeling like I was going to be OK, and could handle whatever comes my way. βThank you!β does not feel sufficient!!!β
- Six weeks of biteβsize videos
- Lifetime Access
- Live Q&A with Eli for your specific questions
- Support & Community Groups
Payment plans (4, 6, or 12x) β’ Pay-What-You-Can
This program isn't just my clinical knowledge - it's my personal journey, my family's transformation.
I can't promise you'll never have hard moments with your kids. But I can promise you'll have the tools to turn those moments into connection instead of disconnection.
Your children don't need a perfect parent. They need a parent who can show up, mess up, and repair. That's what I'll teach you to do.
Welcome to the journey. I'm honored to walk alongside you.