10 Powerful Things to Say to Your Kids
Phrases that build resilience and deep connection. These words help bolster your relationship and your child's sense of security in the world.
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Free Resources from Attachment Nerd
Tools for the Most Important Work
Guides to help you show up securely—even on the hard days.
Each resource includes a video of Eli walking you through the guide, and printable physical reminders to keep available for when you need them.
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Your blueprint for long-term emotional security. Based on 70+ years of attachment research — simplified into five daily gifts any parent can learn to give.
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Soothing a Dysregulated Child
If you feel overwhelmed when your children are full of emotions, you are not alone. This guide helps you learn how to securely soothe your kids so you can feel confident instead of lost.
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The Conflict Code of Conduct
6 principles to help you cultivate secure dynamics with your kids when you are in the middle of conflict with them.
Open the Video + Swipe Guide"Secure relationships aren't built by getting it right every time. They are built by doing our best and knowing how to repair."
These resources aren't about perfection. They're about giving you something to hold onto when you need a do-over. Because you will. And that's okay.
Personal Note from Eli
Hi friend,
If you're here scrolling this on your phone looking for reassurance and support after a bed time battle, a morning meltdown, or a painful text from your teen, I see you. This is hard.
Many of us didn't grow up with secure parents we could rely on and learn from. We didn't have access to parents who could regulate their emotions, understand our needs, or communicate delight in us. You're doing something brave by putting in the efforts to give your kids what you didn't get. You're breaking insecure cycles while still dealing with the impacts those negative patterns had on you.
That's why I created Attachment Nerd — so you don't have to figure this out alone. Use the resources here to fill up your heart and recharge your courage. Save them and come back to them on the days you feel overwhelmed.
Remember that you are already the type of parent who shows up and tries, that goes a long way.
I'm so glad you're here so I can encourage you to keep going.
With so much love,
— Eli
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