Raising Securely Attached Kids

Winner of the Child Psychology Award for Literary Excellence

Build the bond you wish you had growing up.

The essential guide to building connection, confidence, and resilience in your kids — rooted in attachment science, written for real life.

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"I have a feeling I’ll be reaching for this book to reread many, many times over the next 18 years."

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"If you’re anything like me, you’ve consumed a lot of parenting resources over the years trying to figure out how to do it “right.” This book felt different - it still has some hard parts, but it felt very empowering. It felt in-line with the kind of parent I aspire to be."

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"This book! I have a collection of parenting books that speak to different facets of parenting: toddlerhood, neuroscience, teens, re-parenting ourselves, trauma, etc. This book is the book that holds ALL of what I’ve sought to learn, plus more, in such a skillful, science-backed, funny, encouraging, actionable, and wholehearted way."

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About the Book

In Raising Securely Attached Kids, therapist and attachment researcher Eli Harwood translates decades of science into simple scripts, stories, and strategies you can use in the hardest parenting moments.

This USA TODAY bestseller shows how to move past old patterns, resolve your own attachment wounds, and raise kids who feel safe, seen, and secure.

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"Eli Harwood teaches the essentials of attachment, which can help parents ‘show up’ in ways that enable our children to become securely attached to us."

Daniel J. Siegel, M.D

New York Times bestselling co-author of The Whole-Brain Child

Daniel J. Siegel, M.D
"A parenting must-read."

Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed.

author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions

Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed.
"Eli Harwood brings infectious-fun energy, vulnerability, and fresh perspectives without shaming or blaming."

Hilary Swank

actress, storyteller, mom of twins

Hilary Swank
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What You’ll Learn

Move past old patterns and heal your own attachment story.

Choose connection over control in the hardest moments.

Build trust with scripts and practical tools you’ll actually remember

Offer your kids a calm, secure base that lasts a lifetime.

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Raising Securely Attached Kids

It’s never too late to strengthen your bond.

Parenting isn’t about perfection — it’s about connection. This book gives you the tools, science, and scripts that actually last a lifetime.

The research on what makes kids feel safe.
How connection—not control—shapes resilience.
Real strategies you’ll actually remember under pressure.
"There are not words adequate to communicate my praises for this book."
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Eli's Other Books

Securely Attached

Securely Attached

Guided workbook to explore secure attachment in all aspects of your life.

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Uniquely Us

A Mother-Daughter Journal that helps you and your daughter (ages 8+) move beyond daily routines to create real moments of connection.

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